Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Flood gates just opened up...

I just now was catching up on one of my favorite t.v. shows, "Lie To Me", and I started crying (yes with real tears and everything).

The awfulness of my situation just got triggered by the awfulness of what was going on in the story at that moment, and my emotions just let loose with a flow of tears.

People not in this situation have no fucking idea of how devastating it can be to be one of us, the sexually abandoned and forlorned.

7 Comments:

Blogger BCR said...

Clearly, you need some re-training. It appears your wife is using ambivilence as a form of punishment to passively express her resentment towards you for something you did or did not do. Hence, I'd suggest to pay close attention to her needs if you want sexual attention from her. It seemse that you are focused only on your needs at this point. The best way to punish a man, is to allow him to punish himself through sexually starving him. I'd recommend you focus on her, and you will get want you seek. If not, your frustration level will grow. Patriachal dominance, selfishness and munipulation is the quickest way to a sexless marriage.

Give to her what she wants, not what you want. I am sure she is acutely away that you want sexual attention. The question is what does she want. Does she want you to clean the house regularly, take out the garbage or find a better job etc.? If you know what she wants from you, then give it to her. If you break your back trying to please her, she will allow you to break her back to please you. However, if you only do what you want to do, then so should she,she leads to a sexless marriage. Maybe at this time you are not worthy. Basically, the ball is in your court.

Thursday, November 26, 2009 11:59:00 AM  
Blogger James said...

BCR,

This is so off the mark, I won't comment any further.

Saturday, December 12, 2009 7:02:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know exactly how that feels.It has been over 10 years since someone has touched me in a sexual way.It isn't right.It isn't fair and you have been proven right;people who aren't in this position have no fucking clue.

Sunday, January 10, 2010 6:39:00 PM  
Blogger Bootylicious Girl said...

Hello James,
Do you remember me? We meet through Swage? I would love to chat with you, so much things have changed! Message me if you would like, Thanks, Tanya

Tuesday, February 23, 2010 5:05:00 PM  
Blogger James said...

Well we can chat... but I don't know how to write to you... you'll have to email me directly... check my profile for the email address.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010 9:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is just wrong and written by someone who is not in our shoes/I have been attentive for 10 years and have never once gotten love making.If this was merely punishment then he wants me dead.After all this time someone better look after my needs because no one else will.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010 1:37:00 PM  
Blogger Dover, TN said...

BCR: Definitely does Not get it.

Sunday, July 18, 2010 8:34:00 AM  

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